In order to work with me, a couple has to:
*be highly motivated and willing to do whatever it takes to fix their relationship. My weekly hour of counseling isn’t nearly as important as your time between sessions where you work on the stuff I’m teaching you. If you can’t or don’t do that work, I can’t help you.
*both want to do counseling. I don’t and can’t convince anyone.
*be willing to trust me and let me do my job.
*be on time for sessions ready to work, and be at all or nearly all scheduled sessions.
*pay my fee consistently and on time, which will allow us to keep the work the main focus.